I'd like to share a quote by David Whyte: “To forgive is to assume a larger identity than the person who was first hurt. To mature and bring to fruition an identity that can put its arm not only around the afflicted one within, but also around the memories seared within us by the original blow. And ...

Forgiveness is letting go of wishing that the past was any different than it was. 

If we are able to let go of the expectation we had of that person, of that situation, that's where forgiveness lies. But if we can't, if we just want the past to be different, we'll be stuck in it. 

Of course, that’...

So, starting to put all of this together, how can we actually take steps to find forgiveness for someone or something that has wronged us?

Let’s break it down:

The moment we find ourselves in a situation that is posing a challenge, that is causing hurt, the first step is to actually embrace the fu...

There is a time
to rise with the sun,
to put your hand to the wind
and walk where the path dissolves
into the unknown.

There is a time
when the soul throws off its coat,
steps out into the cold morning
without knowing where it goes —
only that it must go.

A time when the body aches 
with the weight of ques...

What gets in the way of forgiveness? 

I mean, there are certainly times when forgiveness is really challenging. We experience so much resistance around forgiveness, don't we? But what gets in the way? Can we kind of deconstruct this resistance? 

David Whyte, the poet said, “forgiveness is a hearta...

As we continue this conversation around forgiveness it’s important to take a step back and see the big picture, not just focus on the individual moment where things went sideways.

The causal stream – cause and effect – can have such a history to it (and by definition it does) that the events that l...

We live in a relational world. The only way we can actually experience love is through relation: relation with other people, relation with nature. We operate in relation. Constantly.

That is the nature of the human experience! So by our very nature, we're going to have situations where we bump into...

I don’t know about you, but when it comes to the subject of Forgiveness, I can use all the help I can get.

So I've collected my thoughts on this topic – both through other research and my own experience –  and of course I welcome your own experience, your own insights, your own discoveries that...

What is Grace?
Where do you find Grace? 

Is it an effortlessness? 
Is it the ballet dancer?
A gently swaying willow in the afternoon wind?
A soaring soprano. 
a mother comforting her child.  

Maybe it is all of these and yet, 
it’s more, isn’t it? 

Maybe Grace is found in 
the way we love,
the way we li...

Unlike other species on the planet, humanity has the distinction of being aware of our impending mortality. But the idea of death actually can save us, and this is what is so powerful. 

I bring it up here because underneath all this fear we’ve been exploring is really this ultimate fear of death. I...

We can consider our birth to be the Original Fear. Now, as you’re reading this I'm sure you don't remember your birth. So how could it have been a fear? 

Well, we know that like the iceberg, so much is taking place in our unconscious mind, and our birth is there as a memory. It did forge some kind ...

Thich Nhat Hanh, the Buddhist teacher said, meditation “has two aspects. Stopping and calming is the first and looking deeply to transform is the second.”

Now, meditation is ubiquitous. Many people will meditate because it reduces stress and it calms us, relaxes us. It has great physiological benef...